正在英语辩论 结婚好 还是单身好
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What the Research Really Shows
The kinds of studies and comparisons used to support the claim that Marriage Wins just don’t pass scientific muster. They are biased in ways that make married people seem to be doing better than they really are, and single people worse (as explained in more detail here and here and here). Used as the basis for claiming that getting married benefits people psychologically, the comparisons are scientifically indefensible.
What’s more, even with that big, fat advantage built right into the research, sometimes it is the lifelong single people, rather than the currently married people, who are doing the best. In some studies, including a few based on large, representative national samples, it is the single people who are healthiest. If you follow people over time as they go from being single to getting married and staying married, they end up no happier than they were when they were single. Those who get married and then divorce end up, on the average, less happy than they were when they were single. Getting married is no royal road to longevity, either.
Lifelong single people do better than married people in a variety of ways that don’t get all that much attention. For example, they do more to maintain their ties to friends, siblings, parents, neighbors, and coworkers than married people do. They do more than their share of volunteering and helping people, such as aging parents, who need a lot of help. They experience more autonomy and self-determination, and more personal growth and development.
But It’s Not a Contest: No One Side is the Winner
Ever since I gave an address at the American Psychological Association in August, making the points I just summarized, celebratory headlines have multiplied. Some claim that single people are happier or that they live richer, more meaningful lives. After decades of seeing nothing but Marriage Wins headlines, one would think I should take some pleasure in this whole new sensibility.
Source: conrado/Shutterstock
The problem, though, is that I’m not actually saying that Singles Win. Yes, it is true that there are some profoundly important ways in which single people are doing better than married people. And those ways in which we are so sure that married people are doing better – well, often they don’t really hold up to scientific scrutiny.
Even so, there are several reasons you should be skeptical, regardless of whether you are being told that Marriage Wins or Single Life Wins:
All of the findings you read about are averages. They tell you about what generally happens, but there are always exceptions. The results do not apply equally to everyone.
The married people and the single people are different people. Suppose a study seemed to show that the people who got married were doing better in some way. Remember, the people who got married chose to do so. If you badgered single people into getting married – especially people who are “single at heart” and embrace their single lives – they might not experience the same benefit. To paraphrase one of my favorite cartoons: If I got married, I wouldn’t live longer – it would just seem longer.
What is most likely to be true is that some people live their best lives by marrying, whereas others live their best, most authentic, most meaningful and fulfilling lives by living single.
Maybe it is even more complicated than that. Maybe, for some of us, single life is best during certain times in our life, while coupled or married life is better at other times. For example, I’ve talked to widowed people who had very good marriages and have no regrets about the years they spent married, but now that they are single, they embrace that life and never want to marry again.
Something else is important, too: We have a better chance to live our best lives if we are not impoverished or disadvantaged in other significant ways. That’s true for everyone — married, single, or something in between — but I think it is especially true for single people.
In the U.S., for example, people who are officially married are more likely to be protected economically. This happens not just for the obvious reasons that they have a second person who perhaps could support them in the event of a job loss or a decrease in income; and that, when couples are sharing a place and singles are not, the couples benefit from “economies of scale” because they split the rent or mortgage, the utilities, and all the other household expenses. Married people are also gifted with more than 1,000 federal benefits and protections, many of them financial.
Marriage, in contemporary American society, also bestows couples with a whole array of unearned privileges, social, psychological, emotional, political, and cultural. In countless ways that we sometimes don’t even notice, married people’s lives are valued and celebrated while single people’s lives are marginalized or even mocked.
That means that when single people achieve the same level of health or well-being as married people, they do so against greater odds. I think that suggests that single people have an impressive level of resilience – an admirable quality that is rarely recognized or acknowledged
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在感情方面，很多人，都是没有对象渴望有一个对象，有对象了就又开始怀念单身时候的生活，对于男人，我想说，不要总是因为没有对象而天天烦恼，有时候想想单身的好处，心情应该也会好一点，男人单身的九大好处，你知道几个？
1、省钱
谈恋爱是需要花成本的，单身有利于节约金钱，不必再担心自己资产的赤字与女友笑容的正比例分布；不用给女朋友买礼物，用省下来的钱去买自己需要的东西。
2、省时
感情是需要很多时间去维系的，但是单身的人就不一样，他们不需要花时间去煲电话粥、发短信，而是可以把更多的时间花在自己想做的事情上，可以天天想睡觉睡觉，跟三五好友喝小酒不用跟任何人交代。
3、延长寿命
寿命可以延长，不必做女友随叫随到的出气筒。同时节省大量节约口水和绞尽脑汁的讨女人欢心，不用天天对她的心情猜来猜去，不用回答女友没完没了的爱情问题“你爱不爱我？”“你到底爱不爱我？
4、美女随便看
在大街上可以色眼乱飘，不必担心飞醋会乱冒、耳朵会被揪；美女照片可以满屋子挂，不必担心会被有“色”的眼神杀死。
5、活得潇洒自如
三更半夜不回家，不用打电话报告行踪，不用担心回去以后跪搓衣板，不用担心被跟踪，可以来一场说走就走的旅程。
6、被更多人惦记
被老爸老妈唠叨说明还没到无药可救的地步，被朋友忠告说明自己为人还够哥们儿，被已经结婚的人羡慕说明自己永远是对的，被女人引为红颜知己说明自己也是个情种。
7、不会失去一些朋友
当有了伴侣的时候，想多空出时间过二人世界，和朋友之间的联系自然会因为时间的原因而减少直到失去，单身自然没有这些问题，可以随意和哥们通宵畅谈，不必担心随时有人来“查岗”。
8、舍小家，为大家
对于单身的人来讲并不都是找不到对象，而是考虑到现在男女比例严重失衡的因素，把自己的机会让给了更多的人，可谓是宽宏大量，宅心任厚，牺牲了自己应有的，腾出了更多的资源，留给大家更多可选择的空间。
9、永远不会因失恋而带来伤痛
所谓爱的越深，伤的也越深，如果因种种因素而导致感情绝裂，意味着爱情的终结点到了，对于已经越陷越深的双方来说都是一个伤害，作为单身男士来讲就根本不存在这个问题，而且永远有着一颗平常的心态，活得潇洒从容。
结语：爱情对人来说是甜蜜的，单身又是自由的，不知道对于单身这九大好处，你怎么看？如果赞同请转给更多单身的人。
What the Research Really Shows
The kinds of studies and comparisons used to support the claim that Marriage Wins just don’t pass scientific muster. They are biased in ways that make married people seem to be doing better than they really are, and single people worse (as explained in more detail here and here and here). Used as the basis for claiming that getting married benefits people psychologically, the comparisons are scientifically indefensible.
What’s more, even with that big, fat advantage built right into the research, sometimes it is the lifelong single people, rather than the currently married people, who are doing the best. In some studies, including a few based on large, representative national samples, it is the single people who are healthiest. If you follow people over time as they go from being single to getting married and staying married, they end up no happier than they were when they were single. Those who get married and then divorce end up, on the average, less happy than they were when they were single. Getting married is no royal road to longevity, either.
Lifelong single people do better than married people in a variety of ways that don’t get all that much attention. For example, they do more to maintain their ties to friends, siblings, parents, neighbors, and coworkers than married people do. They do more than their share of volunteering and helping people, such as aging parents, who need a lot of help. They experience more autonomy and self-determination, and more personal growth and development.
But It’s Not a Contest: No One Side is the Winner
Ever since I gave an address at the American Psychological Association in August, making the points I just summarized, celebratory headlines have multiplied. Some claim that single people are happier or that they live richer, more meaningful lives. After decades of seeing nothing but Marriage Wins headlines, one would think I should take some pleasure in this whole new sensibility.
Source: conrado/Shutterstock
The problem, though, is that I’m not actually saying that Singles Win. Yes, it is true that there are some profoundly important ways in which single people are doing better than married people. And those ways in which we are so sure that married people are doing better – well, often they don’t really hold up to scientific scrutiny.
Even so, there are several reasons you should be skeptical, regardless of whether you are being told that Marriage Wins or Single Life Wins:
All of the findings you read about are averages. They tell you about what generally happens, but there are always exceptions. The results do not apply equally to everyone.
The married people and the single people are different people. Suppose a study seemed to show that the people who got married were doing better in some way. Remember, the people who got married chose to do so. If you badgered single people into getting married – especially people who are “single at heart” and embrace their single lives – they might not experience the same benefit. To paraphrase one of my favorite cartoons: If I got married, I wouldn’t live longer – it would just seem longer.
What is most likely to be true is that some people live their best lives by marrying, whereas others live their best, most authentic, most meaningful and fulfilling lives by living single.
Maybe it is even more complicated than that. Maybe, for some of us, single life is best during certain times in our life, while coupled or married life is better at other times. For example, I’ve talked to widowed people who had very good marriages and have no regrets about the years they spent married, but now that they are single, they embrace that life and never want to marry again.
Something else is important, too: We have a better chance to live our best lives if we are not impoverished or disadvantaged in other significant ways. That’s true for everyone — married, single, or something in between — but I think it is especially true for single people.
In the U.S., for example, people who are officially married are more likely to be protected economically. This happens not just for the obvious reasons that they have a second person who perhaps could support them in the event of a job loss or a decrease in income; and that, when couples are sharing a place and singles are not, the couples benefit from “economies of scale” because they split the rent or mortgage, the utilities, and all the other household expenses. Married people are also gifted with more than 1,000 federal benefits and protections, many of them financial.
Marriage, in contemporary American society, also bestows couples with a whole array of unearned privileges, social, psychological, emotional, political, and cultural. In countless ways that we sometimes don’t even notice, married people’s lives are valued and celebrated while single people’s lives are marginalized or even mocked.
That means that when single people achieve the same level of health or well-being as married people, they do so against greater odds. I think that suggests that single people have an impressive level of resilience – an admirable quality that is rarely recognized or acknowledged
正在英语辩论 结婚好 还是单身好视频
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